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家的涵义:大四儿子和妈妈旅游心得

燕子注:儿子们放假刚到家就被我拉上路,从12/20到12/29凌晨1点,最后一天因为我反悔要去Charleston而产生分歧。他俩说我前一晚本来同意不去了,怎么又变卦,害得他们多往西北开了一小时,要是折返,势必要再多待一晚旅馆,其他计划也都作废了。他俩体谅我同意掉头,我虽很沮丧,但想到他俩假期还没真正到家呢,也就擦擦眼睛按了家的地址。2号在朋友圈发了几段旅游小记,引发大量反馈,没想到3号一早大儿子竟然给了我两张纸,以为是他的2019总结或Tesla游记,结果越看越吃惊感慨!吃惊的是儿子把家的涵义阐释得如此简单明了;感叹的是从何时,母子角色反转,他们不但一路筹划最佳线路,打电话订旅馆买票点餐,还负担着中年老妈敏感的神经?多年来在哈尔滨过夏天一俩月哥俩认为是在家里,他们把哈尔滨当成另一个家。这次长途也许是他们认为的“旅行”。看了第一段还以为就是说回家好呢,读了后几段觉得低估他了。

经同意分享,我的蹩脚翻译无法表现出Austin文字的恰如其分。

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A Reflection

January 3rd, 2020

Austin

By the last day of the Orlando road trip, I had grown weary and a little bit homesick. I could tell Arnold was feeling the same way, and after our complaining had frayed her nerves, we punched the home address into our trustworthy Tesla, admittedly rushing the end of a trip when there were still sights to see. When we got back home, the days were filled with the familiar pillars that I had always cherished. Sleeping in, the safe small town feel, hours of playing video games downstairs, Mom’s food that I could really dig into, the “restaurants” like Hakata Ramen and Taco Bell that Arnold and I appreciated but Mom never really cared for, and of course, that one golden night where the entire family gathers to play the staple game that had followed me through my childhood: Rummy. As mom brought in the fruit (it happened to be pears and pineapples that day) and encouraged us to eat it, I thought, this is home. As Arnold and I teased Mom for being hypocritical in rushing our turns and perennially complaining about Dad messing up her grand orchestrated Rummy strategy, I thought, this is home. This is the origins of my homesickness, this is what I’ve been waiting to come home to.

But after the game wrapped up (with Arnold gloating as always), I thought to myself, yes this is home, but does that make Orlando any less home? Was the trip truly missing anything that we desperately needed and could only find here? As I revisited the moments that composed our trip, I realized that no, that wasn’t necessarily the case. Elements of home followed us wherever we went. Thanks to Mom’s unwavering pledge to always be the morning driver, Arnold and I did plenty of sleeping in, just in the Tesla back seat instead of our beds. Thanks to Mom meticulously packing our backpacks to the brim with apples, clementines, grape tomatoes and cucumbers, Arnold and I ate plenty of fruit, just while standing in line instead of on a dining room table. Thanks to Mom’s thick skin, Arnold and I did plenty of teasing, this time about a variety of topics instead of just her Rummy quirks. Thanks to Mom waiting in line for hours so that we could rest our feet, Arnold and I spent plenty of time playing games, just this time it was enabled by our own guessing game inventions rather than a television screen.

Of course, in the moment, standing for the third hour on a line two hours before I was used to waking up, home felt quite far away. But upon reflection, that road trip was never a far-off approximate from home because Mom had always brought it with us. The manifestations were always there: the Tesla backseat, the plastic bags of fruit, the tolerant acceptance of mild insults. Home is what you make it, and Mom was busy making it for us for the whole trip; we just didn’t appreciate it until the retrospect.

College breaks are a tricky thing. Coming back from living in a college dorm that feels like a year-round hotel, from a land of unfamiliar people that come close but never quite reach family status, from a busy schedule that keeps us perennially occupied with work, all Arnold and I wanted to do is settle into our familiar childhood nest and do nothing for a change. But on the other hand, coming from a perspective where being in one place 24/7 can be stifling, where the familiarity that Arnold and I valued are just routine, all Mom wanted to do was the refreshing novelty of getting out for a bit. But if this trip has taught me anything, it’s that home isn’t a place, it’s a sensation that’s anchored deeply, internally. Traveling away from home and the feeling of being at home aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive. With this new truth at heart, I eagerly await my next journey with mom, for wherever we go, we will be home. And maybe I shall plan it for a change.

奥兰多旅行最后一天,我已经有些疲倦和想家了,看得出弟弟也有同感,在我俩的抱怨把妈妈闹得招架不住后,我们把家里的地址输入到深得信赖的特斯拉里,虽然沿途还有地方值得去游览。到家以后,日子就是我一向熟悉的那样子了:懒床、享受小镇的安全舒适、打游戏几小时、细品妈妈的美食、去弟弟和我喜爱的东北餐馆和Taco Bell (虽然妈妈不待见这俩地方)。当然最重要的是全家围坐饭厅玩Rummy~~这是从我们儿时就有的家庭传统。

当妈妈习惯性把水果拿进来督促我们吃时,我想:这就是家!当我和弟弟挤兑妈妈一面催促我们快出牌,一面抱怨爸爸把她的“宏伟“计划都打乱了时,我想:这就是家!这是我旅途中想家的根源,这是我期待已久回家要做的。

但家庭游戏结束后(弟弟仍是惯常地自夸一下),我自忖:这确实是家,但奥兰多就不是了吗?我们一路的旅游真是缺少任何我们亟需的、只有家里才有的东西吗?我把旅游的细节又回想了一遍后意识到:不尽如此。家的元素一直紧跟我们的脚步。

因为妈妈坚持早上开车,弟弟和我得以早上睡懒觉,虽然是Tesla后座,而不是家里床上;妈妈细心地把我们的背包装满了苹果橘子小柿子黄瓜,弟弟和我吃了足够多的水果蔬菜,虽然是在排队时,而不在家里餐桌上;妈妈脸皮很厚,弟弟和我一直在开她玩笑,这次因旅行主题花样繁多,而不只是玩Rummy时挤兑她;妈妈帮我们排队一站就是几小时,弟弟和我得以歇歇脚,才有精力玩我们创造的猜字游戏,而不是电视前打电子游戏。(燕子注:儿子们发明的游戏深深吸引了我,其中一项是经济/金融/会计词汇首尾接龙,我们忘却了排队的无聊,最后虽然老妈以一个词险胜,会计教授的地位已经岌岌可危了哈哈。)

当然比我平时早起俩小时,排队仨小时感觉离家很远,但回想一下,这次长途旅行跟家从来就没遥不可及,因为妈妈一直把家带在我们身边。家的感觉无所不在:特斯拉后座、水果袋子、妈妈接纳我俩对她的调侃。家是你营造的感觉,而妈妈一直忙着给弟弟和我提供这样的氛围,但我俩直到回顾时才有了更深的体会。

大学假期很蹊跷:学校宿舍就像常年的旅馆,陌生人逐渐走近但远远达不到家人的地位,紧张的学业使弟弟和我终日不得闲,我俩在假期就想在熟悉的儿时老巢里无所事事。但另一方面,成天累月待在一个地方也许令人窒息,弟弟和我渴望的惯例对妈妈来说就是机械重复,她需要偶尔透透气。但我从这次旅行中受益最大的是意识到“家”并非一个地方,而是植根于内心深处的一种感觉。从这意义上来说,离家旅游和体会家庭气氛并不矛盾。这种新的认知让我对下次和妈妈的旅游充满期待,因为我们不论去哪儿,“家”都会跟我们在一起。下一回我来筹划旅行。

附:下面是作者1/2/2020在朋友圈发的短文

和儿子们Tesla开车旅行 12/20-12/28/2019 (29凌晨)除了途中标示的,各地local交通总距离将近3000 miles。我除了定了几天Orlando旅馆和建议去Bridge-Tunnel, 其他都是儿子们随着开车计划,哪里充电,哪里住宿,临时打电话约旅馆,找地方玩。每到一地之前把人口数量土地面积等等查看一下,所到之处能从商学院学生角度观察以及简单分析历史地理经济(虽然文化这一项实在有限)。虽然马不停蹄有些辛苦,他俩觉得the spontaneity is fun! 我当然更像小学生一样看着什么都新鲜(这一点要归功于俺记性不好,看啥都像第一次接触.)

只要出发,再大的梦想都会实现!
Dover DE, Virginia Beach, Chesapeake Bay Bridge-Tunnel (23 miles long, 30 min drive), Rocky Mount (充电), Raleigh NC, Atlanta (世界最大水族馆,Coca-Cola World,Margaret Mitchell House), Macon, Tifton, Gainnesville, Orlando (四天早出晚归疯玩包括最棒的Avatar Flight of Passage), Kissimmee (划船), Jacksonville (海滩), Savannah (河边夜景美食,邻桌一位非裔男士在晚餐结束后优雅地给妻子拉一下椅子。我和儿子们觉得南部黑人似乎过得更自在,以老二的话说因为they are the majority here.), Santee (小旅馆最后一间屋), DC(顺路见高中同学,儿子们跟这位阿姨很有感情,虽然当时已经在路上十小时了,还是主动offer去看阿姨。), 其他charging stations at Virginia and Maryland. 最后一天从早九点到凌晨一点到家,都在开车,充电,吃饭的路上。虽然大赞Tesla,也不要再听俩儿子这种疯狂行为!无奈他俩太想见Frost了!
朋友圈评论
转:“彪悍” “看这文字,啧啧,只有我觉得楼主crazy吗?” “这是特斯拉最好的广告” “是不是边开边可以看电影啊?” “俩位护花使者小帅哥” “羡慕有人领着玩儿” “帅儿子二枚” “Frost 太幸福了!”  “感受到妈妈的开心幸福” “赞组织能力赞行动力还特别要赞分析能力。学商的孩子好优秀。” “great trip! ” “好体力,太牛 ” “充实的圣诞假日!!”“再佩服一次,你牛” “想买一辆,在研究” “开电车长途旅行不容易,孩子们规划性很强” “玩得好开心,9494,开了Tesla 就再也不想其他车啦,最喜欢Navigation on Auto Pilot, 带娃看学校立了大功!” “跟着儿子们玩太高兴了,巴望着有这么一天。目前Tesla车子备好” “我老公問這一行一共充電了多少次?” “我也很喜欢Savannah, 冬天渡假的好地方。“ “我家是Tesla忠实粉丝。也期待一次Tesla自驾游“ “这广告做的,特斯拉给了你们娘仨多少钱?”
转:“你太牛了,俩儿子陪你玩。” “我们也差不多,不过就我一人开车,路上就说要是tesla就舒服多了” “有这么好吗? 等充电多烦人呀. 还要担心没电了咋办。” “高大上 “Scarlett 也是我的挚爱之一” “你为特斯拉代言啊!” “太厉害了” “听起来就好开心,下次也要试试这个神车过过瘾。”“厉害呀” “佩服” “太幸福了,只有陪孩子们玩份,还没享受到孩子们陪我玩。”
燕子回复:多谢大家鼓励,评论里一半关于Tesla的。1)车型是最popular的Model 3。DC朋友一听,立马约了第二天test drive。充电几次没记得,一开始还在notes上记录第几次充电,后来玩疯了也忘了。2)充电多久:根据剩下的电量不等,20-40分钟,基本上要去吃饭、逛店、买东西、讨论去哪玩就搞定。Supershargers都在比较popular的地方,不是想象的无聊。旅馆带连夜充电的也是质量很好的旅馆。3)开车时没看电视,只有一次夜里需要等10多分钟,正好俩孩子开车累了不爱动,看乒乓球赛。4)Elon Musk是个control freak, 所以不会出现没电的情况,只要输入大致的目的地,软件自动设计充电地点,余富出足够里程数。5)auto drive也被一两分钟提醒要触碰一下方向盘,怕驾驶员溜号睡着。6)车的平稳安静确实如前面评论所说,一旦开过,就不想其他车了。大儿子还想着带了枕头,我开上午,他俩开下午,轮流躺在后座上睡觉。这样才能保证凌晨两点到旅馆,早上七点又出发排队Avatar,一天玩俩园子的体力。 7)话说八月份俺老二带着一位看了两三年车的叔叔test drive一下,人家马上下单。
转:“只有我一个人觉得这是Tesla 灭草贴么?普通油车开长途二三天加次油5分钟随地搞定,不用查看充电站再等啊。” “ 母慈子孝,让人羡慕!” “你这“广告”给力! great trip!”
燕子回复: 8)加油呢是速度快,查充电站是不想老用superchargers,比如Aloft这种旅馆过夜、迪斯尼几个园子、Savanna河边停车场,某大商区,有电车专用停车地,离入口近,玩一天或几小时,车慢慢充,这样计划上就不用去其他superchargers了。9)像我们最后返程一天七百多miles的,油车也得加两次,还要吃饭休息,总时间Tesla不会差太多。儿子们计划玩的地方把supercharger locations和需要的mileages算进去,效率高,超过了我行前的预估。10)当然要是我自己,不会那么疯狂往家赶,随处逛街吃饭过夜就充电了,也不愿意费脑筋像他俩那样。他们倒是成了一路实地考察,也是意外收获。以我这急性子,这三千miles长途还真没有因充电烦的时候,只有一个夜晚充电不爱动看了十分钟电视。11)最主要是开车安静舒服,其他油车即使是local,我也是能搭车绝不开车,现在变成主动驾驶了。后座休息也是其他车比不上的,当然要是四人开长途无法躺着就达不到效果了,那样估计和油车综合比起来,除了对环境好一点,差别不大。
转:“我有一米七多点,后座躺不够吧?我一直在考虑model 3.” “深度种草了”
燕子回复 12)我一米七三躺着挺舒服,俩儿子平均一米九,一个前座放倒,一个后座,也说睡觉舒服。车的安静平稳以及加速时的smoothness好比磁悬浮的感觉,否则我是无论如何受不了16小时在路上的。旅行前看了一位开Tesla一路走了12k miles的文章的开头,没来得及仔细看就自己实践了,信心大增。
转:“車子真的好嗎?charge 電的地方容易找嗎?” “听着是挺好. 一琢磨需要三个聪明绝顶的脑袋一起动才可以最优化。不是给不愿意动脑筋的人开的。 ”
燕子回复 13)车子真是好,local开车不用操心充电因为都在家充,我们开了五个月,包括费城过夜往返都不需要外面充电。superchargers在大地区到处都是,我们这次途经人口仅有700的小镇附近也有,当然是Tesla自动帮我们找。14)长途动脑筋这个:如果不赶时间悠哉悠哉就不需要操心效率,无奈尤其老二事无巨细啥都算好,还把我要去的Charleston给否了!15)最关键的是我不会自己self serve加油。春天开车去北卡看大儿子,提前一小时就一直盯着油箱,紧张得不得了,然后还要想着每一个步骤。电车是我这种最笨的人开长途的出路。
转:“我家就一年跑了两万多迈。开车成了享受,老公和我都争着开Tesla. 准备把家里另外一辆车trade in Tesla。”
转:“一个朋友的年终总结,摘特斯拉部分于此:”前10个月一直在疯跑,从最开始到yosemite valley看雪,几次三番的去,后来去南加洲和中加洲看野花,三番几次的去;买了人生第一辆特斯拉,它成了我的白马,一年内跑了2万多英里,大部分是兴之所至一个人听着花粥或春花说走就走,大概开去了两次san diego,三次Los Angeles,去了一次俄勒冈,一次mendocino,好几次yosemite,无数次pt reyes,一次redwood national and state park,一次crater lake和lassen volcanic national park;去了火人节,看了一次乌托邦,认识了不少有意思的灵魂;来美国的第10个年头终于去了最后一个大城市las vegas,回来又勇闯死亡谷。””

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